Thought or Rant of the day!!!

[Doug R.]

I'm a growing teenager; I thought it was supposed to be the opposite?

<dad mode>
There's obviously something seriously wrong with you. Your home life is none of my business, but since you keep posting your health issue, I'll just say this: Your dad is going to be in deep, deep, crap with your mother, and the longer he waits to force you to see the doctor, the worse it's going to be. And your mother will be right to be upset. If she finds out the rest of the world knows and not her, then she'll be hurt as well, and rightfully so. If you think she doesn't like Cantr now, just watch out for the whole family getting banned from it if she thinks it's turning both you and your dad into secret-keeping, mom excluding type people. I get that your mom over-reacts, but what's worse, over reacting to something that's probably actually serious, or over-reacting because of the secrets and causing domestic strife among the whole family? I can't see this heading to anyplace good.
</dad mode>

[MelloYell]

been thinking the same things....thanks.

[CN]

I'm a growing teenager; I thought it was supposed to be the opposite?

<dad mode>
There's obviously something seriously wrong with you. Your home life is none of my business, but since you keep posting your health issue, I'll just say this: Your dad is going to be in deep, deep, crap with your mother, and the longer he waits to force you to see the doctor, the worse it's going to be. And your mother will be right to be upset. If she finds out the rest of the world knows and not her, then she'll be hurt as well, and rightfully so. If you think she doesn't like Cantr now, just watch out for the whole family getting banned from it if she thinks it's turning both you and your dad into secret-keeping, mom excluding type people. I get that your mom over-reacts, but what's worse, over reacting to something that's probably actually serious, or over-reacting because of the secrets and causing domestic strife among the whole family? I can't see this heading to anyplace good.
</dad mode>

Agreed.

Especially on the mom being hurt. She has a right to worry about her child. Even if she does overreact, you never know when it might come in handy. May as well just go to the doctor and get it over with. If it's nothing, well, at least you know. If it's something, you can take care of it.
But, if she knows that your father was keeping this from her, she'll be upset. If she knows that everyone on the internet knew, moreso.
She's a mother, she's going to be concerned, but if it's something and it gets out of hand when her concern, had it been paid any mind, could have saved you from a lot of hassle or health issues, she may hold resentment.

[Chroma Key]

Agreeing with you guys and I am speaking from a mum's perspective here. For a mother, the most important thing is her child's well being. Yes, we worry, yes we overreact at times, but excluding your mum on this one is a really, really bad idea (says she who had an op at the age of 17, away from home, without the knowledge of her family. I can't even begin to tell you much trouble I was in afterwards, my mum still talks about it ith disbelief and I know she'll always feel hurt about it- least of all because I denied her the chance to be with me. Being a mum myself, I now understand). What you see as a hassle may save your health (obviously I hope it's nothing serious) -and- a lot of heartache.

[Cheshierekat]

Snickie...tell your mother....please. Doctors are there for a reason...use them...if it turns out to be nothing, great....they won't think you're crazy if you just go and get checked out. That's what they are there for.

[Snickie]

That's my biggest fear with doctors (and interacting with people in general), that the other person will think I'm crazy. Actually, when I had H1N1 and my mom took me to CentraCare, I seriously didn't think anything was wrong, and I acted like it, and the doctor seemed to agree with me, until the test results came back positive. Then he paid more attention to my mom and sort of dismissed me as he explained to my mom the treatment options. She pretty much forced TamiFlu down my throat even though it was after the 48-hour window, and I was quarantined to my bedroom for a week with nothing more than a really runny nose. Overreaction? Yes. (This also is one of my biggest fear with doctors' visits that aren't routine: my mom severely overreacts.) The other fear: shots. Giving blood, sure. Iron test, even! But not shots.

But I will go to the doctor when my dad goes again. And I'm going to have to find a way to break it to my mom gently (which, unfortunately, I usually mess up at). And...when I go, I'm taking these posts I've been posting. I'm going to print them probably and give them to her. They speak better than I can. And I'm not letting my mom come to the doctor with me because I fear her nerves and what she'll do. And.... (last one, I promise), I don't think I'm going to tell her the whole Internet knows.

[gejyspa]

I just want to go on record as having told Snickie to go to the doctor waaaaay back on May 4th!

[Snickie]

lol gejyy
(I've been wanting to call you that for awhile now. Just sayin'. )

I was honest with my mom this afternoon. She came home early and I was in bed napping (the past few nights I've been up to midnight and later), and when I rolled over to face her I happened to put my hands on my stomach, and immediately she asks if I have a stomachache. So I said, "Not right now." And then my dad tells her about my lack of appetite, which I confirm to her. She asks if we need to go to the doctor. I tell her that it'd probably be a good idea to go just to make sure it's not anything serious, and she's like, "Make sure what's not anything serious?" I shrugged.

Oh, and apparently it's not the bananas. I just ate one and I feel fine, soo.....

We'll see how this goes off.

[CN]

That's my biggest fear with doctors (and interacting with people in general), that the other person will think I'm crazy.

Seriously, doctors don't care if your story sounds ridiculous or if you're just going because you have the sniffles. There are doctors that don't care if you're going to them for something a bandaid could fix, as long as they get paid. Then there are others who actually care. if it's nothing, they'll celebrate with you, if it's something, they'll buckle down and figure out what the best course of action is for you and your family.

Doctors see a lot of people, some of them are hypochondriacs to overreact to everything, others are legitimately ill patients.

You're going isn't going to make them think any less of you. They're not going to think you've wasted their time with your childish thoughts and they're not going to think you're crazy or an idiot.

It's just, over all, better to be safe and sorry, especially where anything abdominal is concerned. So many things start off as just a nuisance and they turn fatal over time. If you have the means to see your healthcare professional, do it. There are others who need to see doctors and can't afford to, so they just suck it up. You have parents who care about you and insurance that will cover some part of the expense, take advantage of it while you have it.

Ranting: Took the kids shopping today and dropped all of this week's check on new clothes. I enjoyed doing it, actually. I've always been a fan of spending money on others. I just never know what to give people but kids are easy, they needed clothes, I got them clothes. They amused the heck out of me. I picked them up from school this afternoon and they were going on about their budgets; the oldest decided her budget was $100 and the youngest decided $100 million would suffice. The youngest also offered to get me a bouncy house thing for my birthday this summer (paid for by my mother, apparently) in return for my buying them clothes.
I let them pick anything they wanted from that store (with the exception of shorts that were smaller than the underwear they wear (honestly, why do they even sell that stuff, and for kids even!!!)). My brother apparently decided that was not what should be done. I just don't see the point in picking someone's clothes out. I figure let them pick what they want, if it fits them right and they're comfortable in it, they can buy it. I only said no to stuff that was too short and well, skanky. Things kid's clothes should not be, that's just disturbing, really.
Spending the day at their school tomorrow for [Track &] Field Day. Watching the older one race in the morning and little one in the afternoon when she goes to school. Signed up to volunteer all day. I've been looking forward to actually doing something with their school and I finally have time off and free to do it. =)

And, this has been insanely long. Off I go.

[Wolfsong]

I'm kind of terrified of shots too, and by kind of I mean absolutely shit-scared of them since I was little. I actually put off getting my thyroid checked out for two years because of it, and when I did finally crack and get blood drawn (see, I can't even do that - any shots, at all, nuh uh) it turned out I was hypothyroid and I've got a teeny tiny little goiter on one of my glands. I once waited two weeks to see a doctor about a sharp pain in my side, and by the time I did go in to see one, I could barely walk, hadn't eaten for a week straight, and threw up everything I tried to keep down - and that turned out to be a bladder infection that was so severe, the doctor told me to go straight to the ER.

The point here is to always err on the side of caution - it's not like a doctor is going to laugh at you for paying them to tell you you're fine - and if you're that freaked out, to pop a valium.

[Vega]

I hate doctors.

I really hate them from the day I went to the orthopaedic (?) and I told him that, sometimes, my kneecap went out of its place (with the corresponding irrational pain, obviously) and he said me that was a stupid thing, and that could't be, he made me lay on the couch to manipulate my knee and... he put my kneecap out of its place, himself. With a "oh, it's true..." Aw.

My mother made me change of orthopaedic. At least the new one was nice (and he didn't hurt me so much)

[SekoETC]

I'm not really bothered by shots since I've learned that usually it doesn't hurt and it's over very fast, but getting blood drawn from my arm makes me dizzy. Nowadays I know to ask to get to lie down when they're going to do it. Last time I didn't mention it because it had been a while since I had one taken and there wasn't a stretcher in the room so I didn't want to be a bother - I ended up almost fainting and the nurse had to hold my feet up and give me juice and put the fan on. Overall I'm sure it would've taken less time to ask her to fetch the stretcher and take the sample while I was lying down, then I wouldn't have gotten dizzy and would've been out of there much sooner.

[Snickie]

Shots hurt for me. Much more trouble for me to get them than get blood drawn. I'd rather a needle were stuck into my arm and the medicines injected directly into my bloodstream like they do with IVs and anesthesia, than shots. Sure, it takes longer, but it's less pain for me and less fighting from me. Yes, I've fought the doctor.

I don't remember if I've told you people this, but there was this one time where my dad had to give blood for lab tests, and my mom decided to get my thyroid checked at the same time. I was around eight years old at the time, and had never had blood drawn before, and obviously I was scared. My mom was there with me, and had my dad go in first so he could "show [me] how easy it is." So I'm in there watching him, and the nurse has the needle in his arm, but nothing's really coming out. So she starts moving the needle around in his arm. He sees it and starts straining and looking away. And then suddenly: "I'm gonna faint." My mom freaks out and is all like, "HE'S GONNA FAINT." Then his eyes go back in his head, his head flies back and then flops forward, the needle comes out, blood's spilling everywhere...and I'm standing there watching the whole thing happen. The nurse tells my mom to take me to the waiting room, which she does, and she's frantically trying to explain to me that "That's not what normally happens.!"
I still had to give blood that day. I was freaked out, but I did perfectly fine.

[SekoETC]

I laughed so hard when I read that. I could see it in my head as a cartoon. For real it would probably be creepy and I'd probably be traumatized for life if I saw something like that but a cartoon could make it funny instead of scary.

[mikki]

So today is my late son's birthday.. so of course today is going to be especially hard on me.. I got into a fight with Allen, my mother.. had two girls fighting on my bus.. then get a letter from the landlord stating that we have to move out by the end of next month.. why today of all days?