Would it help if the player of the man was a woman?

(My male characters tend to be terrible at getting company, or at least company that doesn't run away screaming after a while.)
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Oh, talking about annoying crossed-sex characters, Phoenix ran into this chick that turned out to be played by a guy. How did I find out? Because the player posted in a very rude manner, "ooc: I am a man, you
fool." (Doesn't it sound like I was being stupid for not realizing it somehow? But no, he wasn't playing that poorly that it would have been in any way obvious.)
It's true that my character was making advances on her, but in order to stick to the role, you needn't not to surrender yourself. I don't blame you for shrinking away from his touch. But when he got mad, and turned to violence instead, why did you have to break character, fall to sarcasm and unrealism?
There are millions of other options: run away screaming, start crying, curl up on a ball, attack him with your bare hands. But an OOC hit under the belt? That's really low. And if that person has so onesided image on how women should react, I would suggest that he should never start another female character.
You need to be prepared for anything. If you play a woman, people will react to her as a woman. Things may happen. Sexual things may happen. The same with guys. Heck, your male character might be assaulted by another man, or a woman with 200 grams of bananas. Your male character might be kicked in the crotch, your male character might be castrated. As long as the other person doesn't force a situation down your throat and gives you room to reply and make your own choices, play along.
I felt like telling this person, so what, I am a woman. See this, I'm a woman playing a male with a big sword and terrorising the region.
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(For those who don't know, Phoenix died a while back. He died scared as he had lived for his final years, but less scared than he had been a few days earlier. And he died in the arms of another man, whom he felt attracted to, even though this person wouldn't realize the sexual shade of the matter. So, in a way he died a happy man.)