Personal Matters

[west]

Well then.

[Dee]

Since you said you are afraid he'll break up with you like your last boyfriend, it sounds like you're not quite at the "comfortable in our silence" stage of your relationship.

I was the one that did the break-up with my last boyfriend...

I don't see him everyday, because he always works late and i'm busy with school work most of the time...

And yeah, it's kind of uncomfortable silence that we have right now... Sometimes it's awkward silence, sometimes it's not awkward at all!!

[Cookie]

Just a small question here, don't pay too much atention to it.

Is it strange for an 18 year old to have never had a relationship which lasted more than a single night?

[Yo_Yo]

Its not weird if your like me and rent my lady friends ^^;; For an hour or so >.>;;

[Cookie]

No thats not weird, thats just sad.

[wichita]

Thank you for dispelling so many stereotypes about men, Yo-Yo. You're a true testament to the Y chromosome.

Trying not to sound too much like the bitter ignored nice guy hiding in the dark corner here...

@Cookie Monster: I don't think 18 is as terrible as it might feel, at least it feels pretty insignificant when compared to 26 years, and like nothing when compared to 26 years of 0 day relationships.

[Yo_Yo]

Hey, I just do simple math.

For 50 bucks, I get to do what takes you months and hundreds of dolars.

I just know what I want.

Cause i'm the stereo-typical guy.

[Thomas Pickert]

Hey, I just do simple math.

For 50 bucks, I get to do what takes you months and hundreds of dolars.

I just know what I want.

Cause i'm the stereo-typical guy.

As in ugly and boring?

[west]

@wichita:
I know the feeling of being 'the nice guy' and having gorgeous friends you pine over, hoping one day they'll realize how amazing you are and fall in love with you.

Ain't gonna happen. Girls ain't perceptive enough for that. What I've learned is, if you're interested in someone, tell them.

And if you're not interested, tell them.

And @YoYo...geez, who has that kind of money?

$50 for what-have-you? Sorry, I don't even buy my girlfriend $50 presents. Or myself for that matter. I'm a poor college student.

Course, I mean, I've GOT a girlfriend. *coughs*

But even if I didn't, hey, that's what parties are for, right? Yay college.

[Yo_Yo]

Lol, well some of us young'uns are in the workforce already.

I've been working at ABX Air for over a year now, and i'm only 19 and 1/2.

I make close to 15 dollars an hour though.

And as for the ugly comment... well I'm not really sure if the ladies think I am good lookin or not. Don't suppose it matters though.

[mortaine]

Girls aren't perceptive enough for that....?

Uh.... it's my experience (from the XY side of the equation) that girls are very much that perceptive. They KNOW when a guy likes them, especially if said guy is in their league or lower, and especially if he's a friend. If they don't respond, it's because they are Not Interested. It's as simple as that.

Don't feel too bad, though-- sometimes they are Not Interested because they're only really attracted to guys who are jerks.

I once had a friend with whom I was physically more affectionate than I probably should have been (everyone gets to screw up when they're 19, right?) Anyway, he really, seriously did not understand when we "broke up" (i.e., I started dating someone I was actually into) why I wasn't in love with him the way he was in love with me. He complained that I never gave him a chance.

Well, no. That wasn't it. It was that, with non-stop Beevis and Butthead jokes coming out of his mouth, and not being overwhelmingly physical attractive to me in the first place, there never was a chance for me to give him. There was No Chance.

Sometimes, you have a chance. Sometimes, you don't. Sometimes, she's just not that into you, and you have to take your cues and get out. It helps if you can let her know you're into her, even though it makes you vulnerable to the most feared thing in the world, Rejection. But if she knows you're interested, that can help her open up as well.

Um, this rambly post from the nostalgic old married lady in the corner over here.

[swymir]

Not to detract from important feelings, but I must say. I hate comcast although I hate them a little less then Verizon. That's all. There is no need to discuss this anymore if no one feels like it.

[Dee]

My bf and I went to a concert last night, and it was great!! I really felt that he loved me truly, you know it's the little things that prove the love of the other partner...

His friends were there, and my friends were there too... We both left our friends and stood away from them.. I had a feeling he'd leave me and stay with his friends, but he didn't And his hands were wrapped around me the whole time... It was AMAZING!!!

[Chrissy]

Hi Dee!

If you don't mind my 2 cents, here it is. This sounds exactly like the relationship I had in my early 20's. Exactly. I was ready to have a partner, who was also my best friend. He wasn't ready for that. In his mind friendships/relationships were two seperate things. Although I knew what I wanted, I wasn't truly comfortable in my own skin yet, so I conformed to his ways. Even though I loved him, I would be quiet and slightly different around him, because I was conforming, to what he thought a relationship should be, and looking back, that's not who I am, so I was uncomfortable. We broke up mutualy after a few years.

I'm comfortable with who I am now, I know who I am now. So in my current relationship, If I feel like talking, I talk, if I'm quiet, I'm quiet, laugh, cry, etc... and he accepts that and likes that. Because he also is comfortable with himself. You have to have a good sense of self before you can be a partner in anything, because you need to be able to comunicate your wants and needs.

The boyfriend from my early 20's still calls me once a year, last month he called and asked me to marry him. lol. It's because he's finally comfortable with himself and realized my awesomeness. I of course declined, he is an exboyfriend for a reason!

Know who you are, know what you want, and don't lower your standard , or conform just for the sake of a relationship. There's billions of men in the world!

C.

[Nick]

Not to detract from important feelings, but I must say. I hate comcast although I hate them a little less then Verizon. That's all. There is no need to discuss this anymore if no one feels like it.

Um, you're either using some deep symbolism that went way over my head, or you're in the wrong topic.

Its not weird if your like me and rent my lady friends ^^;; For an hour or so >.>;;

Yeah, like that will leave you fulfilled... See how you feel in a few years.

]@wichita:
I know the feeling of being 'the nice guy' and having gorgeous friends you pine over, hoping one day they'll realize how amazing you are and fall in love with you.

Heh, that used to be me. People should face the facts, the VAST majority of women don't want a nice guy. They might say they do, but really, they don't. They want that loudmouthed ***hole you find stupid and annoying.

If you are a nice guy, then you have to find those women who actually like nice guys. Young ones are rare, you may find yourself unfulfilled until you get older, and women your age realise that stupid guys aren't worth it.