Thinking about quitting.....

[Otherside]

Almost quit completely last night.. but slept on it and will be having a few hand over keys and walking down paths to try and get my own balance back to a sustainable level and not leave people hanging. Currently under a bit of RL stress and with all the recent demands and expectations, my own guilt of not being able to play everyone properly, others jealousy IC and even OOC, it's just been too much... I'll be sad to see some go but needs must.

So.. I'm taking a page from slowness_incarnate's book and killing the remote ones and the ones that have become a burden. So, sorry Fu and a few others.. It's been fun.

[hyrle]

Funny thing is I'm the opposite... my remote characters are the ones that don't require much time and effort. If I ever find myself overwhelmed, I'm far more likely to retire a couple of my more active characters, possibly disappointing others in the process.

[Otherside]

Aye, I know what you mean.. But it's just so I can dedicate the time to the ones that are more involved with others. Rather than the simmers that keep stuff going. Selfish maybe but things change.. That's me on Haven by the way bud! He may have to go too..

[Melodianme13]

I hope things get better soon.

[SumBum]

All the times that I've heard people having issues due to OOC crap just makes me happier that I don't regularly "socialize" with very many OOCly. If someone is truly trying to influence the way you play then maybe you'd enjoy Cantr more if you cut ties with any out-of-game discussions with that player.

[Chroma Key]

All the times that I've heard people having issues due to OOC crap just makes me happier that I don't regularly "socialize" with very many OOCly. If someone is truly trying to influence the way you play then maybe you'd enjoy Cantr more if you cut ties with any out-of-game discussions with that player.

This. A thousand times.

[Otherside]

Sumbum +1, I've been back for a year and those words are wise.

It's not just that Melodiaonme there were a couple recently! And Sumbum I usually really enjoy ooc chats with people I RP with, a lot of times its good to discuss stuff and critique RP, but just some have been heavy recently.. Some not even on the forum,but still influenced by it so I may stop posting in I am etc...

I like being open but this obviously affects some more than it affects me so I am sorry and I'll stop being so honest on here for my own sake and those in RP with... I don't want anything ooc to affect my chars any more.

[NancyLee]

I so agree with SumBum. I keep an ooc relationship with really few cantrians or former cantrians, extremely close in two cases, and every time someone has told me "I'm not enjoying my char as I should because if my char does this or that I'll hurt a player's feelings/because a certain player asked me to please not do so" it makes me cringe. For me it's such a pity being influenced for ooc stuff or try to find out oocly things that could be found out in-character, heck, that steals half of the fun!

[SumBum]

I definitely have a few I rant/vent at about in-game events, but I often follow it up with a disclaimer that I don't expect them to change anything based on that. If something I don't like is going to happen to my char, or things don't go the way I want them to, then I'll deal with it in-game. You can't take things personally. Maybe I've just been lucky and those I talk to OOCly are ducks and we can rant at each other without it coming to blows.

It is fun to talk about things going on in Cantr. So many times my chars don't have the personality or perspective to make comments that I so desperately want to. It's nice to have an outlet during those events. I often call myself the peanut gallery in those instances. Hopefully it means that my chars react the way that is true to themselves while I have a way to express my own opinion outside of the game.

But I hope I have the ability to tell someone to shove off if they ever do try to control my chars through me. Thankfully I haven't encountered that yet.

[Xander]

I'm in various levels of contact with some other players, and I know all too well what can happen if you let OOC information and influences affect you personally. It's nice to talk about characters and IG events with other players, but I wouldn't want anyone to do or not do something IG simply because I wanted them to.

[catwill]

I've been out of work the last two months and tomorrow have an opportunity to return to my old job. I've tried so many tricks to manage my playing time, alarms at the ticks, vacation mode, but none of
it has worked for me. Unless someone has some sort of miracle cure for Cantr addiction I can't see how I am going to be able to get my job back and get my life back together while still playing.

[Otherside]

I've been out of work the last two months and tomorrow have an opportunity to return to my old job. I've tried so many tricks to manage my playing time, alarms at the ticks, vacation mode, but none of
it has worked for me. Unless someone has some sort of miracle cure for Cantr addiction I can't see how I am going to be able to get my job back and get my life back together while still playing.

I tried to limit myself to one check an hour at work, then one every two.. but it's so easy to get drawn in to.. everything..

Luckily most of you go to sleep around lunch time for me, and don't get back until after I leave work so it's not too bad...

[Mee]

I think that getting your job back might do the trick? Ofcourse don't play while working

[catwill]

I think that getting your job back might do the trick? Ofcourse don't play while working

It's not the playing at work that is as -much- of the problem as staying up too late -after- work playing.

[Snickie]

Use the StayFocusd app on Chrome. You can set it to only give you x amount of time on a list of websites before it blocks you out from them completely (until the reset time).

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I have homework.