Thinking about quitting.....

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Re: Thinking about quitting.....

Postby Xander » Mon Nov 05, 2012 11:51 pm

Doug R. wrote:Sounds like you might have an emotional addiction to your character/characters. I'd take that time to try to shift to a healthier perspective.


True, and I'm soon going to be sorting out my characters so I can take a break. It's really not a nice feeling to have.
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Re: Thinking about quitting.....

Postby Oasis » Tue Nov 06, 2012 6:36 am

Doug R. wrote:Sounds like you might have an emotional addiction to your character/characters. I'd take that time to try to shift to a healthier perspective. (speaking from experience)


That is what Cantr Anonymous is for! I think I'm a lifelong member lol. I have lost more sleep than I care to think of over breakups/deaths in Cantr, which usually results in many of my characters pulling back emotionally to try to save myself the grief....doesn't last long, though, I always get sucked back in.
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Re: Thinking about quitting.....

Postby Doug R. » Tue Nov 06, 2012 2:48 pm

After I had my issues, I put up nice healthy walls of proper perspective. They're not proxy mes anymore. They're just characters in a story. Still haven't managed to play characters outside the scope of my personality, though.
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Re: Thinking about quitting.....

Postby Xander » Tue Nov 06, 2012 7:34 pm

Doug R. wrote:After I had my issues, I put up nice healthy walls of proper perspective. They're not proxy mes anymore. They're just characters in a story. Still haven't managed to play characters outside the scope of my personality, though.


Do you think it would help if people wrote up a character outline for their characters as if they were writing a story? It's much easier for me to kill off my 24 fanfiction OC Alex (get over it already, I like the name :mrgreen:) Myers because he is a character that has been created - he's older than me, he's from Chicago, his mother is the daughter of Ukrainian immigrants and his father is a Bostonian WASP, he's an ENFJ on the MBTI (I'm an INTP) and basically he is three-dimensional yet at the same time I don't identify as him (even though most of my daydreams involve pretending to be him, although that's mainly when I'm listening to music that I can set a scene to, or in bed at night, which has been something I've done since I was a kid) so it's been easy to kill him off and do all sorts of nasty things to him and yet, I don't feel an emotional attachment. I'm actually hoping to get Alex into original fiction, although obviously I will have to change some things.
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Re: Thinking about quitting.....

Postby Xander » Tue Nov 06, 2012 9:07 pm

I've started my break of twenty days, and I won't be logging on either here or the game. See you when I get back, hopefully with a much healthier perspective on things. :)
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Re: Thinking about quitting.....

Postby the_antisocial_hermit » Tue Nov 06, 2012 9:52 pm

I think it might help some people.

Good luck and see you when you're back!
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Re: Thinking about quitting.....

Postby Doug R. » Wed Nov 07, 2012 3:08 am

Xander wrote:I've started my break of twenty days, and I won't be logging on either here or the game. See you when I get back, hopefully with a much healthier perspective on things. :)


I hope he put his account on vacation mode...
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Re: Thinking about quitting.....

Postby Black Canyon » Wed Nov 07, 2012 3:10 am

the_antisocial_hermit wrote:I think it might help some people.



Yeah... that five year break did me a world of good :P
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Re: Thinking about quitting.....

Postby the_antisocial_hermit » Wed Nov 07, 2012 3:33 pm

Black Canyon wrote:
the_antisocial_hermit wrote:I think it might help some people.



Yeah... that five year break did me a world of good :P

I meant his outline suggestion for his characters so he doesn't get as attached. lol
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Re: Thinking about quitting.....

Postby Black Canyon » Wed Nov 07, 2012 4:19 pm

the_antisocial_hermit wrote:
Black Canyon wrote:
the_antisocial_hermit wrote:I think it might help some people.



Yeah... that five year break did me a world of good :P

I meant his outline suggestion for his characters so he doesn't get as attached. lol


Yeah... that's what I meant. :)
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Re: Thinking about quitting.....

Postby Snickie » Thu Nov 08, 2012 3:05 am

Can I just say that when you've been busy for days and weeks, having two characters involved in some huge party has completely overwhelmed you and has put your willingness to play any of your characters down to 0? Because that's what's happening to me.

I don't even want to put names in anymore.
Screw missing turn reports.
I need a super long vacation/hiatus.
As much as I hate to say it, another programming hack would probably be good for me at this point. -.-
Maybe I should just unsub.
Or kill off all but one character until they get done what I wanted them to since forever, and then kill that one when it's done.
I dunno.
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Re: Thinking about quitting.....

Postby the_antisocial_hermit » Thu Nov 08, 2012 6:32 am

Send them inside somewhere to rest until it's over if you can?

I understand the feeling, though. Huge masses of people/activity in an area tend to make me be less inclined to play, especially when RL time constraints and computer problems are heaped on top of it. It just gets difficult to scan events for happenings pertinent to your character. I also always feel guilty for not playing some characters while I try to keep up with a few others that I deem slightly more important for whatever reasons.
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Re: Thinking about quitting.....

Postby g1asswa1ker » Thu Nov 08, 2012 3:19 pm

With my wife having lost her job an events in game... I am finding the game more and more depressing then fun and enjoyable.
Somehow you strayed and lost your way,
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Re: Thinking about quitting.....

Postby Voltenion » Thu Nov 08, 2012 8:37 pm

I have always had a very hard time coming back to the game, with my old characters. I didn't want to let go of them, but after being more than one in game year inactive it just feels so weird to play them. No to forget the fact that I really can't play them exactly how they were, since I don't remember everything. In fact, whenever I have an inactive time with one of my characters and then I comeback, that char usually just becomes a little me. Losing his own personality.

Most of the time I'd just make a new char and play it a lot while slowly trying to get back into the old ones.
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Re: Thinking about quitting.....

Postby Xander » Mon Nov 19, 2012 5:56 pm

I'm back from the break, although I'm only logging into the forum and IRC for now, and maybe log into the game in a few days. I have made myself some rules that I think will help -

No more characters with names that I for some reason like, because I think this contributes to my getting attached.
No giving characters the same hair and eye colour as myself (I have dark hair and blue eyes like many of my characters). Doesn't sound like a lot, but I think it subconciously makes them a part of me rather than a text-based character.
Creating a character outline before I create a new character, so I can treat his/her life as a story and a game.

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