Doug R. wrote:SumBum wrote: I don't think telling someone they have beautiful eyes is creepy.
If it's a man giving the compliment, it's 100% creepy, because it will be seen as a come-on. If it's a woman giving the compliment, there's room for leeway there (a man wouldn't be sure if it was a come-on or not, and men are generally flattered by come-ons).
This particular comment I've gotten used to, as I've been told I have unusual eyes (You all have seen them, they're completely normal...but I've had people literally do a double take and stop me on the street...

). When people go "Oh! You have such beautiful eyes." I smile a quick smile and hurry on my way thinking "Uh, thanks?" What am I supposed to say to that? It's not like I had anything to do with it.
Now, I was raised in the south, where you did a polite wave to people, but my mom was from California (Or maybe it's some other reason) so I have a strong aversion to strangers. Random acts of kindness make my day, but if you just come up to me and go "You're pretty!" I don't care who you are, male, female, in-between, I think you're a creep. Stop it. Please don't talk to me in public. I either assume you're going to rape, rob, or murder me, or that you're a mormon in disguise (No offense JM).
If I was single, yeah, it'd probably make a difference if I thought you were attractive, but I'm not.
And if you stare at me, I assume you think I look atrocious and are judging me, so I'm going to be very not-nice.
As far as babies--bottom line, don't touch other people's babies, or pregnant bellies. IT'S NOT YOURS DO NOT TOUCH. Sometimes I smile at babies/toddlers on the bus, but I know better than to touch, that's just rude.
Also: I'm on the DNC list, and still get calls from bill collectors of people I don't know, as well as friends of the person who last had my number. Do I sound like a male mechanic named Jose to you?
