In Game Relationships

[Genevieve]

So I'm going through this right now, and thought others might have too. Anyone ever gotten sick over an in-game relationship breakup? lol I know I know, it isn't real but still, it is bothering me a LOT. I did indeed shed a tear or two. So I'd be interested to hear if others have experienced this or is it just me?

[mikki]

There have been several of in game relationships that have been tear jerkers when they break up. And that is because you get attached not only to your own char but the one your char is/was involved with. Atleast that is how it is for me. So... you are not alone.

[mojomuppet]

Dam Gen I have a char stilll looking for yours and it has been years!

[Genevieve]

LOL Really? From my last account? Otherwise, I don't know of anyone any of my characters has broken up with!!

[SekoETC]

I sympathize with my characters quite a lot, I guess. Most of my Cantr relationships have ended up in death, I've only had a couple of breakups.

The first time my character said she needed time to find herself, she was irritated because of repeated misunderstandings and feeling somewhat inferior to her lover since she was much older than her. Ended up coming back years later, only to find her gravestone. She was so broken that she went traveling very slowly and starved in the next location. No one there seemed to care.

Another case was problematic, a young guy with a much older woman, I guess about 40-50 years older. They used to have good conversations but he felt somewhat awkward talking about sex or expressing his own wants and needs since he felt very much inferior to her, even more so than the girl in the previous example. After he had spent a long while giving her space and not pressuring her into anything, especially after I learned that the player had lost a relative and might not want to rp sex if they're mourning, well, she told him she thinks he only cares about sex and he was so stunned that he just started babbling but couldn't firmly deny such an allegation. To which she said, if you can't even look at me in the face while talking, then we're through. Or so I recall. I remember feeling physically numb and cold after that. It took him years to recover but now I think he has healed and should be able to have a healthy relationship for once.

Edit: Come to think of it, I can remember a few more but they aren't that interesting. I was sort of cyberstalking the player of one of them but she just stopped logging in so I eventually stopped thinking about her. The troubling thing is I think she was 15 or something. It's unfair that a minor would be acting out sexually when it's illegal.

[raspberrytea]

The only time a character of mine experienced a break-up (well, via death, but it was more like a break-up for her), she was devastated, but I was sitting there thinking "Good riddance!"

Though that's a bit of an extreme reaction, it was mostly because I really didn't like the roleplaying style (or lack of, more like) of her partner; nevertheless, I'm a bit stand-offish and cold by nature, so I rarely get attached to my characters' romantic interests anyway. Emotion-wise, though I do occasionally worry for them or their situations, I've never been intensely affected. In a way it's a bit sad, because I feel like my characters' personalities are probably limited by my relative lack of emotion.

[nateflory]

I've found myself deeply saddened by the in-game death of one of my old characters. Felt like losing a real life friend. So I agree, we sometimes get so fully vested in our characters that they are a part of us, and when they feel an emotional impact form something it is very possible to have it spill over into the player's psyche.

[Rumaan]

One of my characters was rejected when he told a very good friend of his that he loved her. I was dejected for over a day. Then my character left her and went travelling.

I have a slightly unrelated question. I think it is not uncommon for people to have both male and female characters. So, when you are thinking of getting into a relationship with some character do any of you wonder if the player is a dude or a girl? And how do you deal with it?

[YugoStrikesBack]

I don't care for relationships, you never know if the person on the other end is a dude.

[AlchemicRaker]

One of my characters was rejected when he told a very good friend of his that he loved her. I was dejected for over a day. Then my character left her and went travelling.

I have a slightly unrelated question. I think it is not uncommon for people to have both male and female characters. So, when you are thinking of getting into a relationship with some character do any of you wonder if the player is a dude or a girl? And how do you deal with it?

If you can't tell, ignorance is probably bliss.

The Praise of Folly was one of my favorite reads in English class, oh boy.

Cheers
- Natso

[mikki]

I don't care if it is a male or a female on the other end because truthfully... my char is the one in the relationship not me.

[Kelli]

I don't care if it is a male or a female on the other end because truthfully... my char is the one in the relationship not me.

Amen to that.

[CrashBlizz]

I have a slightly unrelated question. I think it is not uncommon for people to have both male and female characters. So, when you are thinking of getting into a relationship with some character do any of you wonder if the player is a dude or a girl? And how do you deal with it?

If I don't know, then I don't care at all. But if I 'know' its a guy player then it will creep me out. Though I don't know why.

[cantrfan]

I honestly don't really care for in game romantic relationships. I have had just one char in one and that was way back in '03 and the only reason that came about was because it was a slow bonding between the two chars over many long game years and they eventually got engaged (she died though) and while my character was very broken up about it, I as a player wasn't really. It actually really re-shaped my char's attitude towards the end of his life.

Anyways, since returning to playing I have had about 5 chars just randomly come up to mine and ask for relationships and I am just thinking "I don't even know you...". Just seems too forced, if you ask me.

[SekoETC]

I'm concerned that a lot of male players who play women might not be ready to play a relationship or at least a sexual one. Then if I know that some girl is played by a guy, I might hold back coming onto them unless they make initiative, since I don't want to deal with the consequences of rejection.

It's kinda awkward when you find someone's custom description attractive but the person makes no advances on you even though you talk to them regularly, how are you supposed to make initiative then? Smile and hope they smile back? But what if there's nothing to smile about? How about touching?