How common is sex in Cantr?

[Pirog]

Sounds like that guy had issues. I just don't get why someone would play Cantr if that's all they wanted to do...

Perhaps it was a good RPer who played one of his characters as a very sexual person? I don't see why it would be bad to play a person who would have sex as the ultimate goal in life...it certainly seems a valid goal for a lot of people IRL.

[1959 Apache]

But you shouldn't have had your character deleted; I bet it would have been fun to RP a dramatic breakup.

I didn't want to delete her and she thought of just killing him, but that was not the kind of person she was. My char. was deeply in love with him and would have devoted her life to doing anything he wanted her to do and breaking up with him would have sorta been a breach cause it would have been through OOC reasons so instead IC she caught the sleeping sickness and sealed the deal with her death.

I told my ex-wife when we were married: "If we have sex as often as you want, it'll kill me!"
Looks like this is what happened here.

[Sparkle]

LMAO....I guess that is true!


Pirog:

It was other things involved that let me know that it was not just the char. The guy was also making rather blunt OOC comments as well. I did not want to mention this, but I guess it can explain alot more why I just couldn't do it anymore. I enjoy my sexually active chars. but there is a limit for my chars and for me as a wife and mother. This is just a game and I will not allow my chars. to cross any boundaries to suggest otherwise.

[Pirog]

Oh, I see...well, that sounds creepy.
And you should certainly decide where you draw the line, so I hope you didn't take it as me thinking you did wrong in any way.

[Sparkle]

No, I didn't, but I thought it should still be pointed out that I wasn't over reacting and I don't freak out easily, but this guy was definetly freaking me out. I blamed myself though. Cause I'm such a great roleplayer and all But still, you have to realize, as a player, when you are crossing that line.

[glitterdown]

A few things of note:
1. the proportions of this poll are amazing...
basically 4:1:2 across the board. WILD. yet creepy.

2. a few things I've noticed, or thoughts I've had about this whole "Sex-in-Cantr" thing. Sex is creepy online, period. Dissemble how you will, people get funky about sex (as I'm sure the flaming will insist it's all about my hang-ups :p). Since there's really no other way to deal about this other than personally, I'll have to start there:

I'm over 18 and married. Cyber-sex (even RP'ed) just strikes me as unfaithful. It's not reading or writing a romance novel (although it's hard to deny there's NO auto-erotica involved in either activity) since that's truly one-sided. RPCantrSex strongly borders on cyber-sex imho, hence everyone's reluctance/avoidance of "you/me" dialogue. Not to mention the fact that there's quite a few <18 hereabouts, and frankly no way "to stay safe" in regards to who you "select" to be romantic with in-game. Despite the arguments of a few minors, THERE is something VERY off about role-playing sex with someone who's a minor (whether they know what sex is, or have had intimate time with people their own age). Not to mention the facts that "it was Role-Playing, your honor" probably won't get you much sympathy from either a judge or a jury, and definately won't insulate Jos from legal action if some irate parent finds out their "lovely daughter/son" is getting nasty with adults online.

As such, I avoid it LIKE the PLAGUE in-game :p
I'm not a prude, and definately am not insisting EVERYONE act like me, but considering no one is seriously discussing this issue from all sides, I figured it was time to start.

[Pirog]

Is it illegal with cybersex with minors in your countries?
It isn't in Sweden...

RPing sex doesn't have to be mimicing the action of a porno movie either. Two characters can have sex in a very innocent manner...

[AoM]

In America... the land of lawsuits... if it isn't already a crime to cyber with minors, I'm sure you'll find someone who will decide it should be, and there will be much court action and wailing and gnashing of teeth.

I agree with glitterdown in that it is potentially a very dangerous thing, and if a person is afraid that their char's partner is a minor, I suggest simply asking the character (ooc) if they are a minor. If they are, then you can decide for yourself whether you feel comfortable RPing sex with them. And if one is a minor and is asked this question, they should reply honestly as it is genuine concern for us legal adults.

I'd like to keep the option of sex in cantr, because sex and the desire for human companionship is one of those things that I feel drives society. And society is what this game is about, imo. But to do that, we have to keep things safe for the players, and glitterdown's point isn't one to be ignored.

~AoM

[ephiroll]

I'm over 18 and married. Cyber-sex (even RP'ed) just strikes me as unfaithful. It's not reading or writing a romance novel (although it's hard to deny there's NO auto-erotica involved in either activity) since that's truly one-sided. RPCantrSex strongly borders on cyber-sex imho, hence everyone's reluctance/avoidance of "you/me" dialogue. Not to mention the fact that there's quite a few <18 hereabouts, and frankly no way "to stay safe" in regards to who you "select" to be romantic with in-game. Despite the arguments of a few minors, THERE is something VERY off about role-playing sex with someone who's a minor (whether they know what sex is, or have had intimate time with people their own age). Not to mention the facts that "it was Role-Playing, your honor" probably won't get you much sympathy from either a judge or a jury, and definately won't insulate Jos from legal action if some irate parent finds out their "lovely daughter/son" is getting nasty with adults online.

As such, I avoid it LIKE the PLAGUE in-game :p
I'm not a prude, and definately am not insisting EVERYONE act like me, but considering no one is seriously discussing this issue from all sides, I figured it was time to start.

Since you brought this up, I have to say this is about the same way I look at this topic, except I probly go even farther with it. None of my chars really even have a "girlfriend/boyfriend" (one sorta does but they never see each other because their responsibilities keep them apart), much less someone they "fool around" with. To me the whole "cyber-sex" thing (or anything related to or close) is just creepy. Only two of my chars have ever "kissed" someone or given someone a little "pinch on the butt", and that was a special occasion and the farthest any will ever go. But then I'm one of those "weirdos" that thinks sex is overrated, there are much more important things in life.

[Pirog]

ephiroll>

Or, more probably, you just haven't had good sex yet

[ephiroll]

Oh, I've had good women, got a good one now I just don't focus on physical pleasures.

[Sunni Daez]

I had a charactor that has had *hugs and kisses* nothing that parents do not do infront of thier children... I feel that sort of affection is natural for all ages...However strong explanations and definitions of ones actions, sort of spoils the imagination point of view of the game. (am over 18 )

[Pirog]

ephiroll>

How strange...when I am in love I want to have sex all the time. Even after 2,5 years with my ex I wanted to have sex every day

[Sunni Daez]

ephiroll>

How strange...when I am in love I want to have sex all the time. Even after 2,5 years with my ex I wanted to have sex every day

Although that may be true in our home life, we still would not "do it " in front of children. Which would be my only real "concern" with Cantr RP sex. Is there a garauntee that the person you speak with is not a minor?

[NetherSpawn]

I agree with Glitterdown on the creepiness element.
But more to the point is that Cantr characters, being physically unable to asteriskasteriskasteriskasterisk like rabbits, should not asteriskasteriskasteriskasterisk like rabbits, which don't asteriskasteriskasteriskasterisk in Cantr anyway.
Even besides that, actions within asterisks should not be whispered, as they so frequently are. Actually, I would like it if a system was implemented that took actions in asterisks in a whispered message and broadcast them.
Catch all those filthy minded people and, more to the point, abusers of the whisper system.