Real Life Parenting

[Psycho Pixie]

babies and raising kids....

just smack um around when they cry, and lock them in a closet if they misbehave, its easier that way really. My parents did that to me and I turned out fiiiiine.....


*giggling* I am joking, i swear. I love my mom dearly she did good and let me be my own unique person. no closets or beating were involved.


well there was that one time when she didnt know i was hiding in the walk in closet.....

pixie

[mortaine]

Seko: I think it's very responsible to wait until you feel emotionally and mentally ready to have kids. On the other hand, the argument can be made that if everyone waited until they were "ready" to have kids, the human population would die off-- no one is ready before they have them. You get ready by having one.

On the other hand, my husband and I are child-free and happy that way. We're "not ready" in the sense of never-gonna-be-ready.

I have an elderly dog and a veteran cat. We're transitioning to a new habit, and the dog right now is a lot like an infant-- goes to the bathroom inside the house, gets me up at 2:30 and 5:30 every morning, requires me to stay and calm him down before going to sleep at night, and tests my boundaries and my patience. Last night he made himself sick just so he could get out of the crate and have the opportunity to "go" on the carpet indoors (anyone who has potty-trained a kid might recognize this kind of behavior).

*sigh* Anyway, this is just a dog, there's a limited amount of time that this situation will remain, and we still have the luxury of leaving him at home unattended while we go to work. Apparently, one is not allowed to put a baby into a crate to keep it from getting into trouble.

Um, that was a bit off on a tangent. Anyway, good on you for actually *planning* your family plan, instead of just letting whatever happens happen.

[nitefyre]

I volunteer (because I have to for community service) at an afterschool program for kids between 5-11 year olds, and I'm a teen myself, so I don't know if that helps or if it doesn't. *grins* It's the closest thing I'll come to parenting for quite some time, but I think it's good experience to have. You get everything from tired, frustrated, amused, admired and ridiculed myself, (Sometimes you gotta discipline them by yelling at em if they keep doing something and ignore you, but from Seko was saying, I think that's unwarranted) when dealing with them. Anyhow, by the end of the two hours, I'm worn out and beat so pity to parents- but my own 'rents- oh how lucky they are



Hah, reminds me one day one of my acquaintances met up with me when I was doing my community service, and kept making M. Jackson references. >.< That Bastard.

[Agar]

So ... My oldest son stays with his father's parents on the weekends. He's coming back on Sunday, so grandma calls to let us know he's on the way. My wife and I are already at work, just My father in law and our 3 year old at home. He's out in the back yard, so who answers the phone? The 3 year old. He's being a brat, a cute one, but a brat none the less, and won't take the phone to grandpa(father in law), just talks to to grandma on the phone saying stuff like "lookit lookit".

Then grandma is getting into it, trying to convince him to take the phone out to grandpa, so she says "Are you gonna come visit me?"

He says "Ya" and hangs up on her.

My oldest son gets home with his grandpa and there's the three year old, outside, in the front yard, in our white stickshift, emergency brake off, allegedly with the keys in the ignition, and allegedly with the engine running. I say allegedly, because there's no way the three year old is strong enough to press the clutch down, and if you own a stick, you know they car won't even attempt to crank if you don't depress the clutch.

We chewed my father in law out a lil bit, poked fun at grandma ("it's all my fault, he was coming to visit") and gave the 3 year old a stearn talking to and a swat on the but ("No car jacking, bad baby")

[SekoETC]

Would this be a good point to tell what I did as a kid? I'm a big sister, my brother is one year younger and before going to school he was so shy he wouldn't do anything without me. When he went to pre-school he sat half a year in the dressing room before the ladies told my mom he never goes to play with the other kids. So it's easy to understand I would easily pull him to join me in every prank I'd get in my mind. When we moved to a new house, I thought it would be fun to bash a hole to the platform of our auntie's husband's trailer (he had been assisting with moving the furniture). I think we even managed to...
It couldn't have been long after we got a little bored waiting for dad get home from work, so we decided to play the piano - but in our own way. When mom heard the noise to the kitchen, she came to look and saw us sitting on the piano top, playing with our feet. I think we had walked on there as well, at least stepped on the keyboard when climbing up there. Daddy got home just in time to give us a spanking.
In the summer we climbed on our car and jumped on the hood. Daddy saw us from the window and hello new spanking. Thinking about it, that piano thing must have been after this one because I recall I didn't cry then and it was the last time he spanked me.
It was also that summer I played my brother is a horse and lashed him with a mugwort weed. He started crying and my parents were mad at me. Daddy would push him around the yard in a wheelbarrow to make him feel better, and of course I didn't get a ride because I had been so naughty.
Some time in the winter we heard our cousin, who was a teenager at the time, shouting a rude thing at his mother. It means approximately "pull a cunt", actually I'm still not so sure what he meant. We asked our father what it means and he said he'd spank us for repeating it, but then he forgot.
Also, it must have been a year back my brother said "bye-bye poo shit" to some relative, I think he got spanked for that. He also remembers saying "I'm three years old and killing!".
I don't think we got spanked more than that, it sounds much when you list all the things and forget about the time between. Sometimes we were required to get switches from the forest when we had been bad. He also threatened to use a piece of electric wire, so my brother hid it in the bookshelf and we found it there years after.

[mikki]

I myself have had 4 children, one passing away this past July... Anyways.. I do have to tell you that my oldest was nice to his sister when she was born but her attitude towards her little brother is priceless... She sat on my lap in the hospital, my mom brought Zachary *who is now 2* over to show her... She about smacked him.. She wanted nothing to do with him.. And now? they are the best of friends.. She beats up on him and he beats up on her.. The oldest you ask... Well he instigates everything.. Kids are wonderful but I do have to be honest.. I wish I would have waited a little bit longer.. I wish I could have done stuff differently.. But then again I wouldn't want to change anything about them.. They are my pride and joy... Even though I had my first at 19.. and now am 26... *sighs* Time sure does fly when you have kids.. Never a dull moment..

[colonel]

I myself have had 4 children, one passing away this past July... Anyways.. I do have to tell you that my oldest was nice to his sister when she was born but her attitude towards her little brother is priceless... She sat on my lap in the hospital, my mom brought Zachary *who is now 2* over to show her... She about smacked him.. She wanted nothing to do with him.. And now? they are the best of friends.. She beats up on him and he beats up on her.. The oldest you ask... Well he instigates everything.. Kids are wonderful but I do have to be honest.. I wish I would have waited a little bit longer.. I wish I could have done stuff differently.. But then again I wouldn't want to change anything about them.. They are my pride and joy... Even though I had my first at 19.. and now am 26... *sighs* Time sure does fly when you have kids.. Never a dull moment..

That is so true. My pride and joy is my 3 year old daughter who never gives you a break from laughing. She lights up a room when she skips then trips in... LOL.

[Nixit]

It's kind of weird reading this thread, when I, myself, is a child... I wonder if my parents feel this way.

[Stan]

Nixit, I'm sure they feel this way...

I myself have 2 daughters. One about to turn 9 and the other 5. They are the 2 most beautiful girls I've ever known...besides my wife, of course.

I can honestly say, that I am so proud of the way they are growing to love each other and to love others.

My heart melts every night when we are saying our prayers and my youngest prays for "everybody in the whole world" then prays for me and gives me a kiss on my cheek, then her mom and gives her a kiss on her cheek, then her sister and gives her a kiss on her cheek.

No matter what life will throw our way I'll never forget the bedtime prayers and the hugs and kisses of little arms and lips before I slip away.

[social moth]

>Stan

Is it wrong that you're description of your children sounds like an intro for incest erotica?

[Agar]

>Stan

Is it wrong that you're description of your children sounds like an intro for incest erotica?

Yes it's wrong for you to think that and a GREAT indicator that you don't have kids and probabally shouldn't.

[edited by agar for greater claritly on who's the deviant]

[social moth]

>Stan

Is it wrong that you're description of your children sounds like an intro for incest erotica?

Yes it's wrong and a GREAT indicator that you don't have kids and probabally shouldn't.

Good, wasn't sure. That's why I asked.

[Chrissy]

That doesn't sound perverted at all. It sounds like a man who adores his family, which is refreshing.

C.

[Agar]

I agree with you Chrissy, and I've edited my reply to make it a little more clear. Upon re-reading it, I can see how it could be misintrepedted.

[social moth]

Okay, Okay, I'm sorry. I just think it's a little wierd that the thing he will remember most about his daughters is their arms and lips.