Cantr II Discussion Forum

Now since no one probably even understood what I was writing and why, I simply erased it all and erase myself from this topic. Make it a library topic or something for all I care.

CD EDIT: Seko, please don't do this again, it makes for a very messy forum. Topic is now locked. (Revanael)

The one thing you gotta remember is that everyone is different, but the setting that you first meet someone in should be an indication of what type of person they are. For instance, you won't find someone who wants to "settle down" hanging out in bars, just as you won't find someone who likes to "party" hanging out in the library. Exceptions do happen, but it'll probly be that 1 out of a 1000 chance. Best thing is to decide what YOU want out of life and then go looking for that, don't let what other people are doing affect your actions, the only person that knows what is best for you is you.

Do things you want to do, and you might meet people there like yourself. Which might be what you need.

Go out partying if you enjoy it, stay at home if that's what you prefer, but above all, be who YOU are. Nobody else. That's the most important thing.

What if you don't go to the bar, OR the library? HUH HUH?!

Well, I go to the library. To get books. Which I hardly read. Maybe one a year. Seriously. One a year. Can take me like, two months to read a 300 page novel. >.> Not that I'm a slow reader, I just try and avoid picking it up cause it's BORING. (But the stories are cool)

Anyway, that's not the point.

I think it's just your generation, Seko darling. Or, our generation, whatever. There's so many ads for "Safe sex" and courses in school and stuff. There are teenagers like, 13 years old, going out and screwing, then they realise how stupid it is and smarten up, then they grow up and look for that one. And that's like, guys and girls, of course. That's not ME, of course, but it's some people that I know, and a lot that you hear of. It's more of a "try before you buy" kinda deal. Try it, don't like it, stop. Girls love sex, they get more out of it, it's no question why they test guys completly and then go to the next. Sure, guys are obsessed about sex, but it's not the best thing in the world. Maybe a car can fill that void, or a good non-sexual relationship like I had a few times. It's really dependend on who you are, like Ephiroll and Revanael stated.

Good friends are much more important than partners. Most relationships end. Most really good friendships last for ever.

You can survive confining your sexual relationships to "Mrs Palm" and her five sisters, rather than rushing into a relationship.

Revanael wrote:Good friends are much more important than partners. Most relationships end. Most really good friendships last for ever.

You can survive confining your sexual relationships to "Mrs Palm" and her five sisters, rather than rushing into a relationship.

Sisters?!? That's a brothel she's running, sir. And "Mrs Palm" isn't all that "Mrs", if you get my drift.

I just don't get out much from having sex with people I don't have strong feelings for...I guess I would have if I didn't know how great sex can be with someone you are passionately in love with.

I also find that a lot of people having many partners are often kind of sad about it and would really want to find someone to hold on to.

I'm the type that falls in love on first sight though...it can be a smile, a pair of beautiful eyes or whatever. Not that I fall in love with a lot of people...but when I do I generally do it right away.

My mom even have a story about me that she often tells people. When I was very young (I'm talking really young) I fell in love with a girl (she was about 20 y/o) when we was out travelling. We were on a ferry and when she walked off I was totally heartbroken, crying my eyes out because I knew I wouldn't see her again...hehe, I never even talked to her or anything, but it was love at first sight

Anthony Roberts wrote: To get books. Which I hardly read. Maybe one a year. Seriously. One a year.

You should really read more, but I think that is probly about normal, I think the value of a good book is really being forgotten.

Reading isn't just about reading a story, you learn to concentrate which leads to mental disipline and stamina, it exercises your imagination, and gives you a broader view of the (depending on what you read). Not to meantion the fact that there is very little that you can't learn from a book. I've read on average a book a week, up to 3, since I turned 11 or so. Instead of getting in trouble in school for not doing my work I got in trouble for reading stuff other then what the teacher wanted me to in class.

ephiroll wrote:

Anthony Roberts wrote: To get books. Which I hardly read. Maybe one a year. Seriously. One a year.

You should really read more, but I think that is probly about normal, I think the value of a good book is really being forgotten.

I did a challenge last year to read 50 books during the year. I reached Book #50 in mid-November. About half of my books had to be audiobooks, because I have a 2 hour commute each day, and I cannot otherwise read while I'm driving.

I found early on that it was hard to find time to read 50 books, though I never doubted that I could do it. I had to count things like a very short how-to book as a "book," even if I hadn't enjoyed the reading experience of it. But after about 3 months, I got into a rhythm of listening to the audiobooks and reading one or two books on paper each month, usually on weekends or at night just before going to sleep.

Before I did the challenge, I didn't know how many books in a year I read. I think it was probably 5-10, but it was probably closer to 30 or so.

So, if you find yourself reading only one or two books a year, why not take on a challenge to increase it to one book a month? And yes, we counted comic books and children's books in the challenge-- if you think of it as a book, then it's a book.

In response to the initial topic, I'm looking for a man like you describe. When I think of all the nice boys I let get away because I was to young to know better, it makes me sad . I smile, but I'm serious.

I'm like Pirog, I can be in a club/pub and all I see is a sea of faces, none stand out. None. No personalities either. Nothing. But I can be driving down the road, and see some man walking out of a store, I've never saw him before, and never will again (most likely) and will think,"Oh my god, I love him..."

Books are everything. The written language in all it's forms is amazing. I went to school as little as possible, but have read books like they were my life support all through life. lol. I read the entire bible at age 8. I found it to be fiction nonsense, even back then. My relationship with the god/gods is not affiliated with any fiction.

C.

I'm not "love at first sight", but I do fall for women that show their personality to me.

For example. Today, during my training at work, one of the other students came into the room at lunch while I was reading up on the program we use (I don't eat lunch, so I didn't leave the room. She came in to get her purse or something) and she's like "Tony, why are you always in here?" and then we just started talking, and out of no where, she asks "What are your shifts next week?" I tell her, and they're exactly the same. Then she's like "Well, you'll be spending lunch with me then." she nodded, and walked off before I can say a word.

Women that do THAT, as in, say what's on their mind, rather that dodge it secretly ("Well, what are you doing for lunch next week?" for example), they interest me more. And, I can say that this girl is intereting to me.

Of course, I'm already in love, rwar, so I can't go against her. And I wouldn't, nor am I actually interested in this girl that talked to me today. However, I can agree that she is interesting to me, at the least, and I'm sure with time I could come to like her. Just not yet.

*Stares suspiciously* Thaat's it, you're moving in with me right now. *Drags him by the ear*

Am I really? *Looks around* No, no, doesn't look like it. Right now, I'm still at home in the basement. Sorry to burst your bubble.

Chrissy wrote:I read the entire bible at age 8. I found it to be fiction nonsense, even back then.
C.

Well, there's something else we have in common. The Bible is great if you can look at it subjectively and absorb what good life advice it does contain, but the problem is that too many people take it literally and fail to recognize that it is only a book, written by people, and does not contain anything special other then what a person is able to learn from it. Just like any and every other "holy book" it is nothing more then a book of advice.

I have a holey book that is just that. (Notice the wording). But on relationships, I seem to be the only one who has time to play videogames yet the only one who hasn't got time for a girlfriend/boyfriend. Funny how different people priorities are.