Abstinence

[Spillages]

Is it really worth it?



EDIT: There was some controversy about the first option

Yes, I am doing it.


That means, Yes, I am abstaining from having sex.

[Pie]

YES it's WORTH IT!!

It's in the BIBLE!

[Racetyme]

You'll both lose that sentiment soon enough.

[the_antisocial_hermit]

I think it depends on the person and their beliefs and circumstances. Some will find it worth waiting, some will not. So it's good for some and not for others. There's nothing universal about whether it is worth it or not. The only way to really decide and know, is by going down both roads, but we all know that you can't do that. Just hope you go down the right road for yourself. Don't regret it either way. Learn and keep going.

[Spillages]

The only way to really decide and know, is by going down both roads, but we all know that you can't do that.

Sure it's possible. If you don't like it, drop your shield, run in and out of random buildings naked, pick up trash for the community(AKA steal all the notes) and watch in amazement at how fast you die. Then wait 40 days until the slot opens up and try again.

[the_antisocial_hermit]

Haha, yea in Cantr.

[colonel]

Sex?

[Racetyme]

I always assume that my characters have already done it, and had some other life experiences, it just makes things easier.

[Sparkle]

Well, I always encourage these youngins to take their time and let them know it would be best to wait since there is so many risks involved like unplanned pregnancies and STDs, but for my own personal view I always wanted to test the waters first. I thought to myself there is no way I am going to get stuck married to someone for the rest of my life and the sex isn't good. So I tested the waters first for my own selfish reasons and always made sure to protect myself.

[Pie]

GO SPARKLE!!!


*cough* i mean... HEATHEN .(j/k)

[Racetyme]

Well, I always encourage these youngins to take their time and let them know it would be best to wait since there is so many risks involved like unplanned pregnancies and STDs, but for my own personal view I always wanted to test the waters first. I thought to myself there is no way I am going to get stuck married to someone for the rest of my life and the sex isn't good. So I tested the waters first for my own selfish reasons and always made sure to protect myself.

Of course, you don't want to be foolish.

[Drakulya]

I used to say, "I'd atleast wait 'til I'm 18" and uhh... then I met this girl...

long story short, it was a fun day. I think sex is different for everyone, but like Sparkle, I wanted to make sure I was getting something good before I pledge my life (and soul) away. Honestly, for me, it was worth it. I know what sex is, and I have a scale to grade it on. Now, I honestly don't care if my g/f gets pregnant before we are married, because marriage, to me, is just a legal agreement now days.

Love is something stronger then marriage and sex. If you feel that you truely love someone, and have waited long enough to make sure your not 'dazzled' by the light of it, then go ahead, give it a try. If its not your taste to have sex before marriage, then don't. Its personal preference.

If I could go back and change what happened, I wouldn't. Its said, its done, and I liked the results. Don't regret the past, or you will fear the future.

Also, make sure the sailers have a raincoat on... I'd hate to hear someone got pregnant and their Catholic family just strung them up at the local cathedral. Thats metaphorically speaking... so don't take it too seriously.

[Zanthos]

Tehe my irish catholic mom told me simply "deal with the concequences, if something bad happens, you have to take care of it..." and i know exactly what she meant... she was pretty much saying if i got my then gf pregnant, id better work and pay out child support because she'd never support an abortion (not to mention the fact that if she got one there is a high chance she could never have kids again).

But yeah, we did it, i wish i hadnt. everyone has their preference, and now that i look back on it i was just caught up in the moment. I thought we had something special, apparently she didnt.

Though, all our friends are mutual, and it did make for a good story ;p They didnt believe me at first.

[the_antisocial_hermit]

Love is something stronger then marriage and sex. If you feel that you truely love someone, and have waited long enough to make sure your not 'dazzled' by the light of it, then go ahead, give it a try.

I like the way you put that.

[formerly known as hf]

(not to mention the fact that if she got one there is a high chance she could never have kids again)

Propaganda (unless your then girlfriend had other complications). Legal abortions have no relationship with infertility.


Anyway. This question entirely depends upon your view of marriage.

I will never get married. I am perfectly happy to sign a legal partnership register for legal and financial reasons. But even marriage in a purely legal sense makes me feel uneasy simply because of the religious connotations of the word 'marriage'.

If, however, you do view marriage as something sacred, to the extent that sex should be saved until then. That's your own choice.

Personally, I would advise that sex is fun, and pleasurable, both casually and as part of a serious relationship. As long as you are just sensible about it.

Plenty of people have lots of sex, with various people, and never have any problems with it.
Do not be fooled into thinking that sexual diseases, pregnancy and the like are somehow guaranteed if you have any kind of sex. Have safe sex, and you'll never need to worry.

You are much, much, more likely to be harmed emotionally rather than physically by having sex.

But the answer should be your own. If you don't feel comfortable with casual sex, or sex outside a serious relationship, or even the idea of sex outside marriage. Don't do it.

If it does feel comfortable, then I would say 'go for it'. You are unlikely to regret it if you feel comfortable with the person and situation.