Talapus wrote:Polygamy works both ways. No reason why she can't have both of you
Nah, man. She's got too much class for that.
And that's different. Polygamy is a man with several wives. You're thinking of just everybody screwing everybody they want. Polyamous marriage is a marriage. Husband is only with his wives, wives are only with their husband. Real marriage.
I'm no hippie.
the_antisocial_hermit wrote::lol: He might get killed if I tried to have the both of them.
Yeah? Ah well. It'd be worth it.
Honest, though, much respect to that. Any man who doesn't get violent when someone messing around with their woman is no good, if you ask me. You have to settle that kind of shit proper. Right on to that.
the_antisocial_hermit wrote:Either that or I'd end up losing the other one. Tain't worth it either way.
Yeah, and all the other ladies would never forgive your husband if he buried me. Think how ackward it'd be a dinner parties or what have you.
the_antisocial_hermit wrote:And yea, Schme, I'll put in a good word about your character and moral standing.
Kickass. With you backing me up, I'm set.
Antichrist_Online wrote:Polyamoury is damned hard to sustain, take it from me. Even just allowing others in occasionally would be hard... fun but hard.
I think you're talking about just throwing friends into the mix. That's somewhat different. "Polyamory" can mean pretty much anything. It's not hard to sustain if you're set. Up my way, you can club hop and pick up people, you can go to parties, whatever, have sex with different person every week if you feel like it and know some folks.
If you're talking about having several girlfriends, that's different. That is more or less polygamy. Very expensive.
Personally, I've been into all that. Having sex with all kinds of people, whatever. I've found it profoundly unsatisfying. Sex starved men tend to disagree. Sure, that's fun for a while. A lot of fun. But in the end, it's empty, and you've spilt all this seed for nothing and none of these girls give a damn about you. Don't go for hoodrats and easy women. There's no conquest, there's no point. Don't waste your time on that crap, belive me.
DELGRAD wrote:Abstinence is BS. It happens it happens. There is no stoping what will be. It has already happened and will again and again.
And no I am not some stupid 15 year old horny male.
That's ignorant, man. I don't know what you're thinking. I does seem like you really gave this much thought.
Abstinence is very possible. Don't have sex. No, it's not so easy in a lot of times. A woman will have a boyfriend who will naturally want to have sex with her. You'll go to parties where people are getting smashed and fucking. There's a lot of pressure.
A boy just wants to get rid of his virginity. Having had sex makes you "A Man". Not the truth, hardly, but that's how a boy sees it. Guys just want to have had sex and as fast as possible. They don't care how.
For a girl it is very much different. A woman's virginity means something. You can only lose it once. It should be special. If not with someone who, if does not care about them and love them, at least is not a bastard and will take this into consideration. Make it as good for them as can, make them feel safe and beautiful and not use them like they're nothing. Sex can really hurt a person. A man fucks a girl and say "Well, see you around" and avoid her. Fuck that, man.
Sex should not, never "Just Happen". A girl should not be pressured into sex, and your first time should not "Be spontaneaous". It's something should be planned out and talked over at great length. Yeah, it sounds lame like a motherfucker, but it's the truth. Sex isn't like in the movies.
For a girl to be pressured into sex, and regret later, just like rape. And for sex to "Just happen" while you're fucked out of your mind with booze or pills or whatever the hell you're taking, that's just like rape too.
And on a side note, the law will agree with me. You can get locked up if the girl who you had that "Spontaneous moment" with while you were all on Ex and hammered changes her mind. Not that that's the point. Most women don't go to the police about that kind of thing anyway.
But sex is not something that should "Just happen".
You're out of your mind, man.
Sorry to break it to you buddy. 
There were times, although my husband and I had premaritual sex, that I wanted to try new things and still do. So, I'm not saying that you can't make it work if you decide to marry before having sex. I am just saying it is not the way I decided to go and I explained my reasons. Everyone has a different way of doing things. I didn't regret mine and I suggest that everyone try their own way, which ever feels more comfortable to you, and I hope you have no regrets either.