Gender crisis!!! Eek!

[SekoETC]

Everyone's so funny... I'm not too worried about it when someone thinks I'm a guy... But what worries me more that someone thinks I'm a fag... I hope that never happened. Mostly the reaction when I start talking about a boyfriend is "Oh, you're a girl?" but what if someone would think oh great, we have a faggot here..?

[trage]

Meh you worry too much. I mean besides you can just tell them.... Whatever besides you should read Jos's website.

[cantrlady]

I hate that word - fag. As Sammi said - why label someone?

Trage - whatever you are referring to is none of your business and it is not for this forum's discussion. Inappropriate remark in my view and if you were going for shock value - it didn't work!

[trage]

No, I was trying to refer that it wasn't a great word to use, I was not trying to insult Jos. Why would I want to do that?

[Sparkle]

To get back on subject...I knew you were a girl. The way Hannah and Elizabeth responded to the boys with the giggling and playing gave you away.

[sammigurl61190]

Fag is such a disrespectful word. As if every homosexual should be referred to in a deragatory manner.

Anyway, yeah.

[JJ]

I hate that word - fag. As Sammi said - why label someone?

No seko, never thought you as a guy.

and ummm...i dont use labels....i use ink it doesnt fall off! XD

[Sniper]

Everyone's so funny... I'm not too worried about it when someone thinks I'm a guy... But what worries me more that someone thinks I'm a fag... I hope that never happened. Mostly the reaction when I start talking about a boyfriend is "Oh, you're a girl?" but what if someone would think oh great, we have a faggot here..?

What you are is not important, it's who you are that matters most. True friends and enlightened people won't care one way or another and those who do are not worth the time spent worrying about it.

[jeslange]

Seko, the world's not coming to an end

People in the forums think I'm a guy lots of times, and some in the forums even think I'm the only girl that plays Cantr, which indicates that some think all the girls on the forums are guys.

[cantrpotatoe]

my sister plays cantr. (she has three characters on my account)
she enjoys it. even though i have to be there explaining alot of it to her


and what gets me is that most of the people on the forum think most everyone are guys... then they turn around and wonder if the girl characters they are rping with is really a girl..

[Thomas Pickert]

I don't think that your characters' genders have much influence on your own gender.
And I think, it's a question of one's personal level of sexual insecurity how much or how little the respective genders influence each other the other way round.

[formerly known as hf]

Who needs labels?

Guy/girl
Gay/straight

Does it matter at all?

The internet is annonymous - that's one of the great things about it. I don't care if people think I'm gay or straight, male or female. If knowing those things makes a difference to what someone thinks of me - that makes them quite shallow in my opinion...

[Psycho Pixie]

Until I read this, I thought you were a guy. That's not a bad thing at all though.

Your sexuality isn't based on a few crushes on girls. Hell, I've had crushes on girls. I think labeling your sexuality is stupid. Bisexual, homosexual, heterosexual, curious, blah blah blah. It makes no difference to me, and I don't think it should make a difference to you either. Questioning your sexuality is part of life. What matters are the people, not the label associated to you if you're attrated to males or females.

and from the angle of a grown up woman here...

I dated guys, i dated girls, i have loved women and i have loved men. I am still a girl. to the core. totally, completely and in all ways, a woman. My boyfriend tells me that.... when i am having a crisis of gender or a crisis of "am i pretty enough?"

You are a girl. no ifs and or butts about it, I never questioned that. just because you like some "guy stuff" or you arent terrified of a mouse, or you prefur jeans to skirts doesnt mean you arent a girl.

as sammy said, everyone questions themselves from time to time, its a natural thing. But in the end, what really matters is that you are a girl.

**hear the song "i am woman hear me roar..." **

toodles!
PsPi

[1959 Apache]

**hear the song "i am woman hear me roar..." **

Seko is way too young to have even heard of Helen Redy!

[SekoETC]

I.. think I have heard that quoted somewhere before.. *sheepish smile* Ok but I don't know the song personally. *sucks thumb*