It's funny to read the opposite sentiments ... One complains Drojf is too boring and peaceful; the other complains you can't have enough community and friendship (ie. peaceful activities).
I agree that big cities can lead to huge, annoying events lists. But I'm just going to repeat what I've said many times:
That's what buildings are for!!
Just go inside your building, make it a store or marketplace or company or bar or ... and have notes outside to advertise, or sometimes walk outside and yell around your services and go back in, and your even list will only contain those people that have anything to do with you, be it visiting friends or clients or government officials or thieves or ... and you can have a resonably short events list, while concentrating on the development of the character, company, business, politics, etc.
Currently so few people do this, that people inside buildings are often completely ignored. It's still very silly to have all transactions, meetings, etc. take place on the village square. Buildings are really supposed to be more than just storage places!
In Quillanoi I always found this rather annoying. I don't want to read all that is going on in the town, but whenever I went inside a building, hardly anybody would come in and see me, and when you're outside, everybody expects that you read everything.
And you might argue that you miss too much when staying inside buildings, but that's why people should write newspapers and letters, should organise formal meetings, should create plays to show love affairs, etc. (How many theatres does Cantr have so far??)
Ah well, this is always something that slightly surprised or even irritated me about how Cantr has developed - as said, town squares were never intended to be like this - but perhaps it is also related to me personally: in real life, I also really like dealing with friends, collegues, staff in shops, etc., but I don't like at all to have to great people around me because I just happen to know them when walking in the streets etc ... Anyway, that's a bit besides the point, I guess

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