What Percentage of opposite sex characters do you play?

[Comy]

I'd say that you shouldn't let another person's biases/prejudices affect what you do, especially since playing a character of a different sex or gender identity from your own isn't harmful to anyone.

[gejyspa]

No chance at all of you and your Dad convincing her to play cantr, too, eh? (Or would that just make it worse?)

[Snickie]

My mom doesn't really want either of us playing, mostly because of me and the fact that there is sex in the game. There is zero chance of getting her to play. ><

That being said, would somebody care to bring relevancy back to this topic?

[Henkie]

I personally think there is quite a challenge in playing opposite sexes, therefor I always keep my male/female ratio an exact 50/50 and I do not reach 15 chars, always 14 so I can spawn a new one right away when one dies

[Doug R.]

You can go ahead and fill that 15th slot. We recently changed it so you always have one character slot available, even if it normally would be locked.

[Alladinsane]

As a parent myself, I typically don't encourage deception in other's children. However, as a Cantr player that has experienced first hand the "they simply don't understand" phenomenon of outsiders, I suggest you just change your guy's names to female ones, so when she looks at the screen, she sees all girls. Of course, since your dad is reading this, he'd have to agree to go along with it.

Indeed He is.

Snicks Mom thinks a bit different, not right or wrong, just different.
She has a different view of morality than many people on the net...not better or worse, just different.

Until Snick is 18 everything and I do mean everything that she does online with her parents internet, or on phones that they paid for.. is subject to potential scrutiny. Wonderfully, Snick is pretty trustworthy and investigations have never once, in her life, (unless her dad is being investigated too) ever been subject to one of these. We were teenagers once too, her privacy will be respected as long as grades are maintained.

I only play one female char and have ever played one. (she just wont die! But thats not an open challenge).

Mom did not forbid any playing of male chars, she just said she thought it was 'weird' and snickie has by her own choice deleted half of them. Having been married to mom for 24yrs (almost) I can say that she has her ways of being veeery persuasive. The game gives us the choice of who to play and snickie nor anyone else in her family has been critical of another single players -choice- of who to play (now the -way- some are played is a different subject) and would appreciate being shown the same courtesy in return.

We wish you all a happy and prosperous new year.

Be well

[raspberrytea]

Oh, the things I did online without my parents' knowledge when I was young... Precious, albeit intensely bizarre (especially when you try to explain them to other people) memories. I'm gradually revealing to my mother exactly what I got up to back in middle school. Playing as opposite sex characters is/was really the least weird thing.

More on-topic, my characters are still split 50/50, even after I cut down on characters, and I'm happy to say that all my girls have proper personalities now.

Opposite of masterekat I have had a much harder time playing female characters, for essentially the same reasons. I've often been accused of being boyish, cold, stoic, unfeeling, harsh, etc., so I suppose I'm very traditionally masculine in that sense. Except I'm biologically female (and I identify as such). I think Cantr is actually quite good as a vehicle for getting in touch with yourself and coming to terms with things-- anything feminine, even being female itself, used to really grate at me and I went through a few years feeling like I should have been male, which was reinforced by most of my friends expressing intense shock anytime I did something considered feminine. Over the years I've grown out of that, happily so, and I feel that Cantr was quite effective in helping. It allowed me to unlock a part of me in a safer environment until I was ready to come to terms with it in reality.

[masterekat]

I think Cantr is actually quite good as a vehicle for getting in touch with yourself and coming to terms with things-- anything feminine, even being female itself, used to really grate at me and I went through a few years feeling like I should have been male, which was reinforced by most of my friends expressing intense shock anytime I did something considered feminine. Over the years I've grown out of that, happily so, and I feel that Cantr was quite effective in helping. It allowed me to unlock a part of me in a safer environment until I was ready to come to terms with it in reality.

*nodnods* I went through that too for most of my life, and very intensely over the past year or so to the point where I've been pretty depressed about it at times. (Things are really, really confusing when you're primarily into straight guys - and even morso when you're with one at the time) In fact, I'm still in the process of coming out of that. Cantr has played no small part in helping me come to terms with myself. There's a certain someone out there in Cantr-land who's making one of my characters soft, but what he'll never know is that he's softening the RL me up too. For a little while I found myself thinking, "man, if only I could be like -her- being female wouldn't be all that bad". And then one day I was like, "wait a minute, I am her! Or...she's me... or a part of me at least. If I can do it there, I can do it here too." So lately I've been trying to add a few of her attributes, which I've now figured out are just subconscious wishes for attributes I'd like to be able to display, to my life here and there and its been going well so far. I can tell I'm gaining confidence anyway. Or am at least getting to the point where I can stand myself. And just being able to be open about certain things without actually having to be vulnerable about those things...there are a lot of things my characters talk about which are just repackaged disguises for stuff I've gone through and am still going through in some cases. I find it fascinating that there are things that people I've known my whole life couldn't help me with and yet some fabrication of someone else's imagination that I've never even met can make such a difference in my life. Hmm...the psych major in me is saying that text-based RP needs to be a regular part of behavioral therapy. *shrugs* If I ever go for my doctorate, I know what my dissertation will be over!

[gejyspa]

Oh, the things I did online without my parents' knowledge when I was young... Precious, albeit intensely bizarre (especially when you try to explain them to other people) memories. I'm gradually revealing to my mother exactly what I got up to back in middle school. Playing as opposite sex characters is/was really the least weird thing.

Oh, the things I did online without my parents' knowledge when I was young -- Oh, wait, that was "nothing", because being on a computer meant bicycling after the middle school day was over to use the high school's mini computer (DEC PDP 8/E) with its stupendous 12K of RAM split between two users. (And networking??? Well, yes, Arpanet was in existence, but it had less than 50 computers connected to it that time, and of course you had to be military....)

Aah, there's nothing like the smell of paper tape....

</nostalgia>

[RedQueen.exe]

I personally think there is quite a challenge in playing opposite sexes, therefor I always keep my male/female ratio an exact 50/50 and I do not reach 15 chars, always 14 so I can spawn a new one right away when one dies

I don't feel like it's hard for me, but then:

1) I think I have a pretty androgynous personality, if that has any meaning at all.
2) I'm pretty open to new experiences.
3) I almost exclusively play strong-willed females. I definitely can't handle playing the skittish, shy, or scared ones. The closest I've played to a more "sensitive" female was Shiva Chamberlain. Loki was more "girlish" than any of my actual girls.

[Henkie]

I managed to groe one out to one of the cutest shy ones in he whole of English cantr!
I love that char now...

[dingo13and7]

Right now I have seven men and eight women, though admittedly only about three of the women I spend any amount of time on. The others are just...well...not really going anywhere. Whereas five to six of the men are moving around and I'm loving playing them.

I went with 40-60%, since that's the real number, but the realistic number is more like 20%.

[Henkie]

I changed my current values to male playing >60% female. The only reason I spawned females: There are more men in the game

[Maximo]

I have 2 out of 10 characters of opposite sex. As a programmer, I had a tough choice between 10-20% and 20-40% options in the poll, that certainly needs a fix Back to the topic, why playing females while being a male? Well, why not, it's all about roleplaying. Not that I don't regret it - I often ask myself "Did I say/do the thing that women would?".

[RedQueen.exe]

I have 2 out of 10 characters of opposite sex. As a programmer, I had a tough choice between 10-20% and 20-40% options in the poll, that certainly needs a fix Back to the topic, why playing females while being a male? Well, why not, it's all about roleplaying. Not that I don't regret it - I often ask myself "Did I say/do the thing that women would?".

An interesting question to consider, given that there are probably no behaviors unique to one sex or the other, only differences in the prevalence of specific behaviors within each gender.